Yes, yes …. I am prepared. For all of the backlash that may come with this post, I am prepared.
Yesterday morning, I was watching Good Day Philadelphia and they dedicated a segment to discuss Rihanna’s interview, which aired the night before, with one of the most influential women in the world, Oprah Winfrey.
Outside of Rihanna’s dress looking like the Arizona Green Tea, she looked like a doll. Dubbed “the essence of F*ck” Rihanna looked calm and composed and came across as a sweet Carribian girl who’d been humbled by a new world of unexpected fame and fortune.
With Oprah being who she is and has been, there was no doubt that, the violent situation that erupted between Rihanna and her then boyfriend Chris Brown was going to be up for discussion. When the time came, Oprah had Rihanna in tears as she admitted, “I think he was the love of my life.” The tears continued to flow as she went on, “I’m not at peace if he is not happy or he’s still lonely.”
This doesn’t surprise or shock me at all. However, it did shock journalist Jenice Armstrong of the Philadelphia Daily News and she discusses her feelings in her article, “Rihanna Still Loves Chris Brown? Why?” After recapping the interview between Rihanna and Chris, Armstrong brings up Evelyn, a member of the Basketball Wives reality show because she was just recently head-butted by her newly-wed husband, a football player, Chad Ocho Cinco. Evelyn immediately filed for divorce and Armstrong has a new found respect for her, after witnessing Rihanna still pining over Brown. Because Rihanna’s behavior, to Armstrong, is so confusing and in order to substantiate the confusion that she is writing about, she reaches out to a friend who’d been abused for over a decade and published a memoirs detailing the struggle she endured. The friend paints Rihanna’s feelings for Chris to be common, even speculating, “She probably still thinks that some of it was her fault.”
She paints Rihanna as a woman showing the normal behaviors of Domestic Violence Syndrome. There is nothing wrong with this picture, but honestly, I believe they should have never broken up. There was just something about Rihanna and Chris. And if you didn’t know it then, only a fool couldn’t notice they were sick without one another. Every other day for about 3 years, Rihanna rock-starred it out with money, sex, and drugs:
Poor Chris Brown, his music said it all. But his music wasn’t the thing that let me know he was dying a slow death without Rihanna, it was when he went blonde.
According to the article, there were other acts of domestic violence during their time together. I absolutely do not condone domestic violence, but I do love love. So does Kevin Hart, one of the most popular and successful black comedians today. Check out one of my favorite parts of one of his acts, “I’m a Grown Ass Little Man!”
Kevin Hart on Domestic Violence
Seriously! The first thing I must say is their relationship, that relationship, was over 4 years ago. I feel like the public should let it go and stop being hateful or judgmental. There is no denying that the two love each other no matter how dysfunctional it may have been. And may I stress “may have been”, because that relationship was over, over 4 years ago. If he got help or he didn’t or even the reality of loosing her and then having to witness her with other men for years could have been the wake up call. What if Rihanna learned to love herself more and didn’t need a man putting his hands on her or acting aggressive so she could feel cared for and protected, so she wouldn’t provoke him, going forward? She is from the Caribbean – they are spicy and aggressive. What of she slapped the holy mess out of him and he’d been taught in the same fashion as my little brother – “If she hits you, hit her back?” I think it was very unfair what happened to their love and I think it is very thirsty of the media to continue to keep them apart. Are you saying, Ms. Armstrong, once an abuser always an abuser? I thought people grew up, they were awfully young. Why can’t they get the benefit of the doubt? Why can’t they get the support they need to be healthier. Anyone who would deny that there is a chemistry between them is hating because they have yet to recognize the true power of love!
Because so much time has elapsed between then and now and each before our eyes continues to blossom and grow, I really believe with support, they deserve a second shot at sharing the love they share, together.